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Admit it to yourself: you're here to get laid
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One of the biggest reasons guys fail in pickup is that they aren't willing to admit to themselves that they're doing pickup.

I know that might sound crazy, but it's true. 

See, guys often tell themselves they're learning about game to, "Improve their social skills," or to, "become more confident," and although those are cool things to do, if you don't admit that you're also learning game to fuck women, you're probably not going to get anywhere.

Society has shamed male sexuality so much that men aren't even willing to admit they want to pickup women. That's as delusional as being conditioned to believe you don't want to eat food or breathe air. 

Yes, pickup will improve you in a lot of ways, and that includes making friends, improving your social skills, and building confidence, but you're not going to get any of those benefits unless you admit to yourself that you want to get laid. 

Why?

If you have a half-assed mindset you're going to take half-assed action. Why push yourself when you're not trying to get laid? Why approach that girl when you just want to build your confidence? Truth is, you probably won't - the motivation just isn't strong enough. 

Beyond that, this "I don't care about sex" mindset is a way of dipping your toes in the water which creates terrible cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is basically a conflict between two beliefs that causes stress. So, on the one hand you are approaching women and getting numbers etc. But on the other hand, you don't want to admit that you care about getting laid. Well, those two things contradict and that's going to cause internal tension - the easiest way to avoid this is to stop approaching, stop getting numbers, etc. 

You have to accept that game isn't creepy, that wanting sex is a totally natural part of being human - it's the reason you're here in the first place. If you don't own your own desires, and admit to yourself that you have a primal motivation for doing this, then you will be one of the many guys who half-asses this and then gets half-assed results.

You have to play to win. If you do anything less, you'll be one of the many dabblers who gives up after two months and goes back to sleeping with extremely unattractive girls on tinder (or who doesn't get laid at all).
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